In my village we are lucky there is a great community spirit with people doing all sorts of acts of kindness and offering practical help. We even have a newsletter that is growing week by week with advice to help those in need.
I was asked to contribute something about Dementia and this as my regular followers know is a subject dear to my heart. So today’s blog I will include an exert because during these past challenging months it has been harder still for carers.
It has never been easier to access information which may just help you feel more comfortable spending time with a loved one or friend. As always, I recommend visiting the Alzheimer’s Society’s website where you will find literature and advice – all free. Their array and quality of literature (which can be posted out) is superb with great tools to help with positive engagement.
www.alzheimers.org.uk. Support line 0333 1503456
Remember: During the lockdown those caring for somebody with Dementia have had no respite. Day centres and hubs are closed, support workers and family members having to safe distance and not enter homes has left carers coping 24/7 and more often than not with continued disturbed sleep. If you can find time to ring the carer just to let them know they are not forgotten it will really make a difference.
As my own mentor used to say the biggest gift we can give of ourselves is our time.
There has never been a more crucial time in most households to plan ‘loosely’ something to look forward to. We will resume normal life, but meanwhile we have to continue to be sensible. I hope I’m not the only ‘party pooper’ who feels that things may get dangerously lapse during the 75th VE day anniversary celebrations?
When we look at all the various TV documentaries being rolled out for VE day, and plan garden celebrations this Friday we must be mindful that the ‘enemy’ this time round is invisible and there is no warning unlike the sound the doodlebugs made when bombing parts of our great country. But I will be getting out a tea dress to wear as I raise a glass albeit safe distance…and I think a sing along seems inevitable.
I feel for the older generation who may be feeling very isolated and not having the choice or ability to have a zoom party or enjoy all the various jokes and video clips being circulated which really lift spirits.
For my own part I am reminding my elderly, clients, friends and families that we will do really nice things together and just holding that thought definitely helps…a little. There is no substitute for human interaction but keeping communication by whatever means is well received.
In our own village some of the younger children have been busy making cards for those that live alone and these have meant such a lot. There will be treats finding there way to these star families for certain.
The past few days I thought I would catch up on some reflective reading and picked up my copy of ‘Love for Imperfect Things’ By Haemin Sumin. I have read several of his amazing books and often bought copies as gifts.
Never has his words of wisdom been more appropriate than now when many people have more time to reflect. I am therefore selecting two of his quotes for today’s post:-
‘A good job and money are important to our well-being, but when our relationships are harmonious, and we feel appreciated and accepted, that is when we feel most peaceful and content’
‘Recall one person whom you were grateful to recently. Send her a thank-you email or text message right now. While you write it, you will notice your heart feels warm and happy’
Feeling appreciated is often all we need from those we are close to and if we can feel grateful for what we have and what others do we are definitely happier and more contented. I think in the rush of modern day living too often we forget these two simple, though important aspects of relating to others.
Of course remembering just to be kind to ourselves… as at the moment, self care is vital, and, just as important as what we are doing to help and support others.
Take care and keep well.
There is never a ‘good time’ or an ‘easy time’ to lose a loved one for whatever reason. However, we are now in such unprecedented times that for those having to organise a funeral and only being able to have a few relatives present it is unimaginably hard.
The past month or so I have spoken to several families going through the bereavement journey and I feel their pain, frustration and disappointment in not being able to honour their family with as they say ‘a good send off’ . Many are planning to do things in the future – tree planting is always a good idea something permanent in their memory.
Speaking with a minister friend earlier today we both agreed that when things are gradually back to normal there will be such a lot of hugging going on… we both know from working with families how everyone is missing human contact. We also agreed the chocolate munching is keeping us going and how he would be busy with a lot of christenings in the future following an expected baby boom!
Seriously though, as ever, if you know anybody recently bereft please keep in contact just a quick call, saying ‘there are no words but just to let you know I am thinking of you’ means so very much.
Stay safe and be kind to one another.
Continuing to support students is vital during these times when schools, colleges and universities are closed. Luckily with technology this is something that is easily achieved. However, what we mustn’t forget is the hard work which goes on in the background organising all the online activities and the tutors who are doing their best to continue to motivate and support their students…and of course some are more dedicated than others.
I can acknowledge the true value of support, as in my own unit, my daughter has appreciated tutors and her university going the extra mile. Additionally, for myself, as a mature student, (taking my own continual professional development seriously) I am enhancing my own skills with distance learning courses from the BSY Group.
Over the years I have taken several of their courses and the support and quality of course material and assignments is second to none. Doesn’t matter how old we are, a) we are never to old to learn knew things and b) we all crave encouragement and acknowledgement when our efforts are recognised. I for one, look forward to receiving my assignments back and reading my tutor’s comments, hopefully favourable, and of course, taking heed of any advice to keep my study focus on track.
To all those in the education sector sincere thanks for keeping everything going during such a difficult time and that includes all the administration back-up staff as well as the tutors.
I’ve always been good at getting out for little walks whenever possible and finally got one of these fit watches that record one’s steps alongside other various data. Yesterday I was a bit short of my target number but when I woke up in the middle of the night (after midnight and a new day of counting) I discovered I had managed 12 more steps?? So I am obviously dancing around in my sleep…every little helps.
Seriously though any exercise even chair exercises are great and as lovely as it is to watch all those box sets on TV we must move off the sofa or we will all have huge bottoms…but more worrying is the threat of poor circulation.
It’s good to learn when talking to various elderly folk that so many of them have taken to doing exercises in the morning rather than let their joints seize up. I told one of my old couples to put their cd player on and have a tea dance.
Keep well and keep active.
So we are all digesting the prospect of a further three weeks on lock down. The past two days since the announcement, which surely really came as no surprise to most, I have spent encouraging people to see this as a positive step…it’s keeping us safe.
It has however probably made a few people think about putting some structure into their day and/or tackling some long over due jobs, maybe some home decorating if you have the paint and inclination.
I found myself today having a spring clean in the kitchen, tidying cupboards..sounds impressive but really it was another case of being on the run from the ironing and other such wonderful chores.
Seriously, the news prompted me to step up contact with my elderly folk and clients, yes, they have coped well the past weeks, but we want to keep their spirits up so please again may I remind you younger followers to ring your elderly relatives and neighbours. Not everyone is IT savvy and those that are have plenty of contact eh?
Keep safe, keep a structure to your day and keep communicating. Try not to eat too many sweets and treats as we know what follows those two culprits…yes the dreaded diet.
How could my blog possibly be about anything other than the amazing Captain Tom Moore and the NHS staff. The whole nation and indeed so many countries across the world have got behind him and I believe the figure he has raised is 13 million for the NHS – which is unbelievable.
What an inspiration he and so many people of that generation are to the younger generations. They set a fine example of being stoic, positive and grateful in acknowledging the sacrifices that our wonderful NHS staff are making on a daily basis.
I know from friends with families working on the front line that all staff are absolutely exhausted not to mention the emotional stress that they take home after every shift. I have never taken the NHS or any of its medical staff for granted and remain eternally grateful to the team at UCLH London, especially my own G.I. specialist Anton. Huge thanks for my life changing operation some ten years plus ago and the continued care and treatment that I receive – their care and positive attitude has never faltered. They all go the extra mile…and then some.
The Thursday clapping is both joyous and emotive and by golly they all deserve it.
As for Captain Tom Moore -how proud must his family and friends be…I know we all are.
In these difficult times it is quite hard for some people who may be used to a routine. Routines may be annoying for many but for some it forms a structure of normality and even comfort.
I recall when my family unit were going through a particular personal challenge our fabulous childminder reminded me to keep as much routine in my daughter’s life (then age 4) as possible.
My tip for today is, as crazy as it may seem, any type of routine we set ourselves rather than veg out in our pjys all day every day will really help with our well being.
Visiting two of my elderly clients earlier they have been really quite good at trying to replace all their previously enjoyed activities and break from each other…such as trips to the hairdressers, day centres, W.I. etc with various house and garden jobs then their afternoon walk.
We can learn an awful lot from the older generation who have already got being grateful for small things down to a fine art. It doesn’t take much to lift their spirits but I know everyone that is living at home alone really appreciates any interaction.
Please use that telephone as much as you can. Remember not everyone has an iphone and can face time those they love so a call to your Gran or elderly uncle or aunt will go a long way to breaking up their long day.
Stay safe, stay positive and keep well.
I often write how our body is like a balloon if we squeeze it in one place the air moves to another part. Stress invades our body in various ways and unless we make an effort to exercise, maybe practice yoga or find ways of relaxing and chilling then our body will respond…negatively.
Stress can affect us in many ways, neck ache, head aches, stomach issues and not to forget sleeping problems. I think I have always been pretty good at not holding onto stress and keeping relaxed by switching off by means of distraction. However, I too have had a few neck issues of late..too much time on the phone and at laptop doesn’t help.
Yesterday, although I had been massaging said neck and doing gentle exercises my daughter informed me I was moving my head like an owl when I turned to speak to her. This made us both laugh…and I always say laughter is the best tonic…but maybe just add a small measure of gin.
My message today is try not to let things consume you and enjoy what’s good in your own unit as best you can. I am certain we will all look back and have some good memories about the premium time we spent with loved ones whilst missing many others.
Personally I am looking forward to hugging all my family and having a very special with my new great nephew who I have yet to meet. However tough you may feel your own circumstances are there are many more especially the elderly that are finding it much tougher. I am off to do a very safe distance chat with two of my favourite old people.