I know most people are against any type of bullying but to deny it exists we are all kidding ourselves. Even when schools have strict policies these are not always enforced and this is far often down to the fact the child concerned has been too afraid or embarrassed to tell anybody that they are being bullied.
A while back I donated an article to Innovate My School’s website and for ease of reference and time the link follows – my message and advice still apply.
Children carry the memory and trauma of being bullied right into adulthood and thankfully we are now all talking about it and increasing awareness and have support charities to help our children through the sad experience.
Yesterday’s ‘Times’ featured an interview with the amazing Dr Edith Eger a survivor of Aushwitz by Ben Hoyle in which her positive attitude towards life is contagious.
She is quoted as saying of her time in the camp ‘they could not touch my spirit’ and similar phrases I often heard my own mother and mentor say. She speaks about prison and freedom ‘prison is in your own mind and the key is in your pocket.’ Never a truer word said and how we can all apply that to every area of our own lives and challenges we have to face.
She confirms that ‘curiosity saved her’ and curiosity is something we should encourage those around us to apply on a daily basis to improve our perspective and widen our horizons. Talking to new people and taking a different route to work -try something new and feel the benefit. Having a positive attitude can help see us through the darkest of moments life is precious and should be celebrated.
I realise I am an old fashioned girly but I am always impressed when I receive good customer service. Years of working as a quality consultant and researcher excellent service is never wasted on me.
I suspect like many people who work from home office their computer/laptop is their life line and we can’t all be IT experts so when things go wrong it can be very stressful. I am mindful my laptop has seen better days but when it crashed recently I was lucky enough to enlist the help of Shak Khoda from Herts Computer Care based in my village (Redbourn). Shak thinks long term when dealing with his clients and that will always get my vote.
Shak was able to get my laptop up and running and reassure me that all my data was indeed still safe on the hard drive. Not only did he give me great service he also helped me identify the right new laptop to invest in. What I like about Shak is he takes time to talk to you in language that non-IT people can understand, during my visit he gave me good practical advice. Reminding me to be mindful not to just focus on the data storage but look for a product with reliability, consider the processor, ROM and the hard disk techonology. He also warned me about the pitfalls when purchasing Microsoft Office…to look out for ‘deals’ that are only a trial and/or subscription but to opt for the lifetime 1user option.
I would have no hesitation in recommending his service especially for those self-employed business colleagues who feel vulnerable with little or no IT knowledge -we can’t all be experts in everything. When writing advice articles for entrepreneurs I always recommend to engage the services of experts when necessary…and let’s face it our computer is the heart of our business so look after it.
I had an amazing day Friday watching my daughter Graduate at Gloucester Cathedral. Obviously I am a very proud parent of all that my own child has achieved but it is great to be part of the educational ceremony and experience all the young minds being congratulated in the presence of their loved ones and of course their lecturers and fellow students.
Watching their excited, and for many, nervous faces as they take part in the procession was magical. It was good to finally meet my own daughter’s lecturers who put so much effort and focus into their respective areas of expertise and genuinely want their students to succeed not only in their degree but in their future careers.
For any students just starting their first year of their chosen degree, my message would be, enjoy the journey, focus but have fun the time will fly past and before you know it…it will be your graduation day too.
I often write about remaining calm and using one’s intellect rather reacting with our emotions and yesterday I applied this mantra to myself. Anybody who has attended a First Aid Course will know that if we do not panic but have a course of action we will be able to be of far more use and apply successful first aid treatment.
Somehow I managed to shut my thumb in the car door…the pain was unbelievable and I experienced what we mean when we say ‘my legs just buckled‘. Thankfully, I could hear my Mother’s voice saying, no shouting, ‘concentrate open the car door’ which I did and regained my composure and prevented a more serious injury. I had to drive to pick up my daughter from the station with a throbbing thumb and once home wrapped it in ice. It throbbed for the remainder of the day and I was thankful for the reminder not to panic from my guarding angel.
This is not the first time my amazing mother and mentor has come to my rescue and as we approach her anniversary and the prospect of celebrating a milestone birthday I continue to realise she hasn’t left me completely and she never will.
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I am an old fashioned girlie and love a good Sunday roast. Last weekend my daughter and I decided to give one of our local venues a try. We both enjoyed a fabulous roast dinner and were impressed by the quality and the price. Tender meat, vegetables which were not over-cooked, smashing roast spuds and gravy like mum used to make.
So well done to the Chef at the Holly Bush for raising the level of pub grub. Did I mention their puddings are fab too..I am known to indulge in these on a Friday evening…no hope!
Today is World Alzheimer’s Day and it is a positive step to have such wide focus on increasing awareness of dementia. Having worked with and supported families with loved ones facing the daily challenge of living with dementia I know first-hand how vital it is that we support the charities that support both research and provide practical advice to those living with dementia today.
There is so much more that needs to be done in terms of both research and support both leading up to diagnosis and after…when often fmailies are left with little or no constructive help. Generally I believe that GP’s need to have more access to facilities and information to pass onto their patients. Whilst some day centres may be the answer for certain dementia patients its not a one size fits all situation. Both dementia patients and their main carers may be very private people and need, no make that deserve, more one-to-one treatment and care.
For all those connected in some way to dementia I send my respect and the request to make sure that you contact the support charities.