What really counts…

Some people spend their whole life searching for answers which may just be staring them in the face. Life is indeed what we make it and richness can be measured in so many ways. Today I remind myself how fortunate I am to have a great family and wonderful circle of friends who support me and when needed I do my best to support them too.

I have quite a few close friends and family members going through bereavement and one of the things I always try to remind the bereaved is to remember their loved one’s achievements in life and who they were. This is far preferable than focusing on the way they died, and, in the case of an unexpected death so many unanswered questions remain and often we feel a terrible sense of anger or injustice dependent on the circumstances.

Just after my own mother died a boyfriend gave me a poem ‘How do you live your dash’ author unknown.  This reminds us of just how important our lives are however short the dash is between the date we were born and the date we died we will have loved, been loved and touched the hearts of many and achieved so much.  One verse follows:-

‘For that dash represents all the time she spent alive on earth

And now only those who loved her know what that little line is worth

For it matters not how much we own, the cars, the house, the cash

What matters is how we live and love and how we spend our dash’

A few of my followers will resonate with and understand why this is the subject of today’s post. A few more lines from the same poem and a great mantra for the weekend…no life!

‘And be less quick to anger, show appreciation more

And love the people in our lives like we’ve never loved before.’



2 thoughts on “What really counts…

  1. Sorry for your recent loss of a sibling, I write my blog in the hope my posts help somebody make a bit of sense of their own feelings during bereavement.Take care.

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