Regular followers will know that I frequently blog about supporting children through bereavement. The best thing one can ever do is to encourage a child to talk, share and remember their loved one…denying their existence is unhelpful. However, when a whole family is mourning it is very difficult to measure at what stage of the bereavement process each member has reached. We are ready to talk and open up when we are ready there are no right or wrong ways and everyone will grieve in their own way. Remember grief is private but if we share it the journey becomes easier.
I salute Rio Ferdinand for having the courage to produce the documentary showed last night ‘Being Mum and Dad’ . He gave an honest account of just how hard it is to not only lose a partner but support children mourning their mother. The programme featured several of the main charities that offer practical support to children and encourage the bereaved to remember their loved ones by writing notes and keeping them in a memory jar. He also spoke to other widows who shared their own emotive stories.
I never forget the amazing way our own mother coped with being widowed with five children to comfort too. Her story and mine are told in ‘A Mother’s Love’ Gospels according to Dorothy is now available to download from Amazon kindle.
As I have said several times we keep our loved ones alive in our mind and our heart.