New opportunities

Life moves in mysterious ways and a close pal is always reminding me that we meet people for a reason that doesn’t always become clear until much later….but it is all part of ‘God’s plan’ if you believe in a God.

However, I prefer to believe for the past fourteen years it is my beautiful mother and mentor who is moving things on the chess board of life for me to make great things happen.

Owen, if you are reading this ..here’s to that infinity pool In Uganda and working with creative talented writers…leave the editors and pessimists back home. SMILE!!

Rubber Soul…bouncing back

Aside of  one of my favorite Beatles albums what a concept if we viewed our soul as rubber and that we did in fact bounce back again reincarnated a better or stronger individual?

In life we so often get knock backs and if we can bounce back like Tigger from Winnie The Pooh then we are indeed lucky. Of course it depends what the disappointment is..but if it is something really dear to you then it’s a good idea to find a way just to do that.

With this is mind I will be tackling the Editor’s hatchet job on one of my books, reminding myself it is just one opinion and thanking the ‘positive angels’ that I don’t have an ego about my writing. Thank God for a fab agent too!

But first an afternoon tea with one of best boys, Jamie.

St Just In Roseland Church

If you find yourself  in St Mawes, Cornwall search out St Just In Roseland Church. ‘Built at the turn of the 13th Century, thousands of people from all over the world come to visit this enchanting church in its idyllic location.’ (Their own free guide) 

Whilst I visited every type of beautiful church possible in Italy last year with splendor unimaginable, this church has the best surrounding grounds I have ever seen.

The gardens are amazing, and around every corner you find a beautiful ornate pond. A truly lovely pace to either get married in or be laid to peace. There had been a wedding the day previously and a garland of flowers were above the church door.

It was good to reflect and light a candle for Mum whilst away from my own churches and to put a wish pebble in their healing pool for a special gentlemen who has had a difficult year.

Cornwall -Cheese teas

So a few wonderful days in Cornwall, of course the first afternoon I indulged in a cream tea..it would be rude not to.

However, the next day wandering around Mevagissey, my friend and I came across a small cafe. Time for a morning coffee, but on the menu we spotted cheese teas.

This was excellent, a melt in the mouth home made cheese scone, with a generous wedge of strong Cheddar and soft creamy Brie, apple chutney… accompanied by  pot of good tea.

What a great idea, and hello to Linda one of the proprietors at  ‘Cafe Blue’ In Church Street Mevagissey! …see told you I would add you to my blog.

Many lives, Many masters

A beautiful man recommended I read ‘Many Lives, Many Masters’ By Dr Brian Weiss some time ago. I took it away to Cornwall to read as part of NLP reflective reading.

An amazing book extremely thought provoking and resonated with me as a believer of listening to the messages that come to us in our dreams. I could not put it down and it prompted a good debate with my friend over endless cups of tea and glasses of wine.

 

Genetics responsible for so much and energies that both religion and science have pondered over for many years.

Add it to your list of reading and challenge your beliefs.

UCH NIHR BioResource -value of research

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I consider myself fortunate to be one of the research volunteers at UCL Hospital and I am hoping my article in their quarterly newsletter will encourage others to do likewise.

Bioresearch is a fascinating subject and for those of you keen to learn more take a look at the following link and see what great work the team are achieving.

http://www.uclhospitals.brc.nihr.ac.uk/research/ucl-bioresource

Bereavement – helping pupils to recovery

My latest article on bereavement can now be viewed on Innovate My School’s website.

http://www.innovatemyschool.com/industry-expert-articles/item/1414-bereavement-helping-pupils-and-towards-recovery.html

I hope parents and teachers will find this piece useful in helping their pupils/children through what is a difficult journey for the young.

With thanks to Lorna Chiverton-Hunt (a student life coach/psychology tutor) for her valuable advice and contribution.

Utilising counselling skills in everyday business

Learning counselling techniques and life coaching skills can be invaluable in any business. Becoming more people focused and understanding of others is a vital part of communication which I have always maintained as key to success.

We are never too old to learn new skills or enhance those we have. Having made the effort to update my own CV last year with various counselling qualifications I can honestly say it was time very well spent.  Working through the course work and taking the exams were, for me, just confirmation that I have always been right in my approach both in business and life.

People are important, apply understanding and tenacity in finding the right solution -it is there if you take time to look.

An ex-client and very wise man David Roberts, once said ‘It’s nice to be important but far more important to be nice’. He also agreed with me  that what was deemed by many  as ‘an old fashioned and honest approach to business’ was worth its weight in gold and vital in analysis of business intelligence – listen to your customers.

People, have and always will ‘buy from people’.

Charities shame

I, like many have been deeply saddened to think that hard sell tactics from charity staff has led to a generous lovely lady being led to despair. The telephone scams and bullying approach targeting the vulnerable, and so often the elderly should be stopped. Maybe if the culprits are fined, named and shamed it would stop.

I have been fortunate to have worked for over thirty years both as a freelancer and volunteer within the not for profit sector in various roles, including fundraising and have never resorted, been involved or witnessed such tactics. I believe in maintaining contact with donors but there are better ways of doing so!

As in any business (which charities have become) I have never believed  it necessary to bully people in to buying one’s product/services or beg on behalf of a cause however worthy.

Sadly it is the charities  that suffer as a result of this type of management that should never train sales/fundraising staff to act in this way! Again unnecessary -people buy from people anyway so train your staff to be polite, friendly and respect people’s privacy and choice.

Aside of being appalled at the training of staff, and over zealous management pushing commission based donations we all of course remain furious at how our personal data continues to be ‘sold on’ and abused.

Having donated to Nepal disaster recently, I did receive a follow up call but the staff from UNICEF were polite and not pushy and accepted I did not wish to set up a regular commitment – but I am not certain that vulnerable people are as firm as me generally when dealing with charity staff.

I think some of the larger charities have lost their way and maybe now’s the time to review their strategies and take a leaf out of the smaller charities book who still really value their donors.