Today I am devoting some time to my own publishing projects and having a further read through of ‘Dancing in my Dreams’ a personal account of my own journeys through bereavement.
“Welcome your grief with open arms –don’t push it away! There is no quick solution I’m afraid we all have to go through the various stages of grief at one time or another –delayed and/or inhibited grief are common but what many do not comprehend these latter and often chosen routes are indeed optional… arguably to a certain degree by various experts.
Opinions and theories of experts’ aside the bereaved often just need to feel they are not alone in their grieving whilst searching for answers and coming to terms with their loss. I recently read a passage by Albert Einstein which sums up the urge, for some to comfort. ‘ We know each of us comes for a short visit, not knowing why, yet sometimes seeming to have a divine purpose and that we are here for the sake of others..for the countless unknown souls with whose fate we are connected by a bond of sympathy.’”
I say this so often but if you know anybody going through bereavement try and offer some friendship and support. Remember they need this for a long time after the funeral and not just leading up to it. It is never an over-night recovery far from it, whilst respecting privacy is one thing abandonment is another.