Grief doesn’t leave us overnight it is a process and a journey with many stops at places that we would like to bypass. Sadly we have to go through the various stages and quite likely to visit some if not all of them again. There is no quick route.
Bereavement is all about expressing that love we had for our loved one and that intensity of the relationship determines our own bereavement.
What we must acknowledge is to have known and loved somebody is a gift and we should honour that gift by not being ashamed of feeling angry or sad or embarrassed about crying.
We keep our loved ones alive in our heart and in our mind and to do that we need to talk about them and remember them.
Not talking about somebody that has died does not help anybody. Allow the bereaved to mourn and remember and any of us can do that by simply befriending and talking.