Morning my lovely followers and fellow writers. Just an update my publication:
‘A Mother’s Love’ My Mum said…Gospels according to Dorothy’
Is now available from kindle at £3.99 whilst I sort out a paperback version for those not signed up to kindle, don’t forget if you don’t have a kindle you can download free of charge the kindle app to your laptop.
Happy reading and feedback is always welcome.
A great gift for Mother’s day.
My publication ‘A Mother’s Love’ My Mum said…gospels according to Dorothy is now available from Amazon kindle £6.99 to download.
With Mother’s Day on the horizon, for those of us that no longer have their mothers around it is a time often to reflect and remember their love and hopefully the amazing relationship we had and the love they gave. I hope in reading this my story and hers will resonate with many.
Mine was a great mentor and knew all about NLP, CBT and mindfulness she was a natural master and I hope my followers, friends and family will enjoy reading some of ‘Dorothy’s Gospels’.
With my jacket illustration provided by my great nephew Paul Manning it is a family project made with love. Photograph is mum in her ATS uniform and the handwritten note across the photo was presented to me by my daughter when she was very young.
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This week our family have said goodbye to a lovely man who I described as an epitome of a gentleman and he was. Meeting his family and his extended family ‘friends he had made’ I soon realised this man had touched many people along the way and had not just adopted our family but others too.
His funeral had been sensitively planned with tasteful yet beautiful music and of course poetry, ending with ‘Gone fishin’ by Delmar Pepper and fitting for a man especially fishermen.
“Don’t worry, or feel sad for me,
I’m fishin’ with the Master of the sea…
To all of those that think of me,
Be happy as I go out to sea.
If others wonder why I’m missin’
Just tell ’em I’ve gone fishin’ “
To any of my followers this week who may have lost loved ones remember we keep them alive in our heart and by talking about them and remembering the good times. I am reminded by the famous ‘How do you live your dash’ poem which sets out quite clearly that it is not how we die but how we live that dash between our date of birth til we die. This is why we must celebrate their life and continue living our own…just as they would wish.
I am thrilled today as the artwork for my book cover is finalised by the talented Graphics Designer Paul Manning.
‘A Mother’s Love’ ..Gospels according to Dorothy will be available from Amazon kindle in the coming days.
Friends have been nagging me to write down my amazing mother’s tips and sayings for years. I hope my blog followers will enjoy reading my story and hers.
I have lost count over the past months where colleagues and friends have spoken about their life’s compromise and how do they re-address the balance?
We use such words too easily and often incorrectly we are often told how not to compromise ourselves too much but in reality life, or indeed certain elements, may indeed feel like we are compromised but life is about adjusting and acceptance too.
I would remind my followers today that the feeling of being compromised may be as a result of choices we have made either on our own or jointly. Often we make decisions based on information to hand at the time and/or to please others. Of course neither of these choices is completely wrong but in our aim to please we may feel we hand over too much control. Wanting to please others in itself is no bad thing but remember we are important too, so is our own happiness and moreover our peace of mind.
Just living day by day of course is always favourable and not allowing our fears to consume us is sound advice. However, at times even the best of us who on the surface are immune to stress feel vulnerable and not in control.
My message today is to relax, do things you enjoy to balance out the stress of life, be mindful and be kind to yourself and not hard on yourself.
To quote Billy Idol..the future’s so bright got to wear shades!
Today I salute all my fabulous female friends, family members and fellow female colleagues, and of course, fellow writers…we are all doing an amazing job.
Only yesterday I was discussing with a close female friend how great we all are, the way we juggle and prioritise on our feet day by day all year long. The devotion we give to our families and if appropriate our clients too.
For many of us if we have had the added bonus of great mentors along the way even better; mine was my beautiful mother and then a female barrister in my mid-twenties both of whom encouraged me to be the best I can and embrace new challenges.
Celebrate being a successful woman but be mindful of those who live in other countries where opportunities are for some non-existent and/or have a real struggle to just survive let alone flourish.
A special message of love and respect to my wonderful daughter who is blossoming into a beautiful young woman who makes me proud every day.
Huge thank you to all those inspirational women who when met with adversity or personal loss channel their energy into achieving great things which benefit us all.
As I was saying recently to somebody who had taken the positive step to talk to a life coach it takes courage to recognise that you need some assistance. Working with somebody outside of your immediate circle to discuss those issues that are troubling you and/or that you feel may hold you back from realising your potential is a step in the right direction.
Often we have barriers that we put up which prevent us from following our dreams and enjoying full relationships. NLP helps you to identify those barriers and the reasoning behind them but more importantly to break down those barriers to work in a more positive and confident way.
Through life’s experiences it is quite easy to become affeared and develop a negative mindset when those experiences are in the past and are really unrelated to your life today and the possibilities awaiting you tomorrow.
NLP also helps us to recognise that other people have weakensses too and in acknowledging these we can find ways to live and work in harmony.
To quote Mahatma Ghandi:
‘Happiness is anything done with harmony –only when our thoughts, actions and words are balanced and connected to each other can we achieve true harmony.’
This week for many friends and family there has been nothing but sad news. Sometimes in life it feels like there is a cluster of negative things happening around of us and of course it is. This is life but so too are all the great days and weeks that we have flying past trouble free and which we all take for granted.
When we lose people close to us it makes us reflect on our own lives and hopefully drives us to make the best of what we have and be the best we can be. Living a day at a time realistically that is all any of us can do and fretting over things won’t make them go away.
Focusing our energies on doing what we enjoy, achieving our dreams and remembering to have fun and laugh are the best remedies for survival. Laughter is of course the best tonic and I am aware that some of the daft things I say and do cause those around me to be at times a bit surprise, embarrassed but at least it makes them laugh.
I played a funny trick on a close friend last week and we are both still giggling like school girls and why not! Being over fifty doesn’t mean we have to a) behave like it b) dress like it and c) lose our sense of humour. Anyway I am still deciding what I am going to be when I grow up… for now I am just a recyled teenager!!
After a day of serious work I will join friends tonight to put the worlds to right, eat crisps (unhealthy I know) and laugh.
Time passes quickly so make the most of every day and yes housework can wait.
As we all rush through our busy day it is oh too easy to forget politeness, kindness or understanding. However, these three ‘guys’ should always be our best friends and applied throughout the day not just when we feel we have time!
It doesn’t take much to offer a kind word, listen and be understanding of others as we never know what is going on in somebody’s life and a kind word or deed can go such a long way.
Politeness often gets forgotten about but it is just another way of being considerate..en route to brunch with my great life coach pal a woman let a store door go in my face..her life obviously so busy she couldn’t just glance behind her!
Too often people rush around in a world of their own without consideration of others and I can guarantee their lives are not busier than the rest of us either. Another beef of mine is when people are rude to waitresses or people serving in shops..no excuses!
So slow down, think what’s going on around you and how you can make life a little bit better by a small act of kindness.
I am going to again mention the subject of cyber bullying as we continual to hear extremely sad cases on too regular a basis to ignore.Teens self harm, develop eating problems and many cases are leading to child suicide.
As I often write when I was younger bullying at school may just be during the school day (that was bad enough) nowadays the bullies have access to their victims 24/7. I am reminding parents who follow my blog that schools can still act upon bullying outside the school environment if it is affecting a child’s wellbeing at school and/or being a cause for them to be absent from school.
Please tell the school if your child in having bullying of any description so they can take the relevant action and stamp out bullying. School life, especially for teens is stressful enough without the added cruelty of online bullying. Modern media enables bullying to take a life of its own as people quickly join in, often ,without realising, just how much agony they are causing to the subject of their adverse attention.
I remind the culprits in life it’s not a joke if the victim isn’t laughing…think would you like it happening to you?
If I were a parent of a child who bullies in this way the phone would go for good.
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