Weighing up options

When I worked within a legal environment we would call ‘weighing up’ the balance of convenience. Throughout business and personal lives we are often faced with challenges and choices to make and weighing up the pros and cons can be difficult.

Aside of being feared of change, the word compromise can be just as frightening. Not everyone has the personal attitude towards their life to see an experience may be a good one, albeit a second choice and perhaps not quite what you had in mind as the next best move.

If the life of a freelancer has taught me one thing its that life throws all sorts of curved balls for one to juggle and/or bat away. We think our skills and qualifications are taking us towards a definite route but along the way we may be distracted by something which we made need to reach that final goal…and perhaps didn’t realise until now!

Today I am doing just that weighing up and reflecting on what to do the coming months, or longer…watch this space.

 

New chapters

September sees the start of new chapters for many children, some may be just starting full time school with many tears from mums wondering where the years have gone to. Whilst others may be starting a bigger adventure and a more serious chapter as they head off for their first term at university with mums being equally proud and tearful…wondering where the years have gone to!

I am reminded as I write my blog tonight of the song our children used to sing in the Infants School: ‘One more step along the road I go’…one that my own mother used to sing to me and always makes me choke back the tears.

Whatever steps be it small or large your children are taking this week, as mothers we have to learn to let go, encourage our children to be confident and positive and embrace what life holds in store.Yes there will be tears but moments ahead where we will be oh so proud of what they achieve.

I know a lot of people find it hard to cope with the empty nest but this is often a time for reflection and to perhaps start something new for yourself. A new chapter of your own.

Remember the university children come back and appreciate us all the more!

Good luck to all those accepting new challenges this month.Enjoy!

 

Finding what works

In whatever our chosen career may be we are never too old to benefit from the advice of others. What is great, don’t you agree, is when we take time to research a subject and find out ways we can improve our own delivery of what we do…and find out it works!

I am a great believer in being informed to help make a better decision and/or give me that edge or some may say the confidence to go that extra mile to please my clients. I am mindful that people often put their faith in us and our abilities so continual professional development is vital.

There is nothing better than receiving feedback that how you handled a situation was really appreciated by those concerned. It never hurts to say thank you, though in some areas of my work I can tell if the client has enjoyed and benefited from my help.

It’s a good feeling to be helping those that need encouragement and engagement and it may be far simpler than those around may fear. Don’t be afraid to ask for help for yourself or your loved ones as the right assistance may be easier than you imagine and make such a difference.

Communication continues to be the key to success.

 

Alzheimer’s Society

Regular followers will know I often talk about transient reminiscent bumps which are triggers bringing memories flooding back. It is not necessarily a bad thing to release stored emotions and a trigger is indeed a release valve enabling this.

These triggers/bumps may take the form of happy memories too inspired by our senses i.e. visually looking at photographs, listening to music, smelling perfumes or even tasting a sweet from our childhood.

Recently the news has been full of exciting announcements of new drugs hopefully to  help people with dementia in the future.

For those with loved ones suffering from dementia there’s useful information available from the Alzheimer’s Society. I thoroughly recommend carers, friends and family to take a look at their website http://www.alzheimers.org.uk  and check out their vast list of leaflets.

I have just received and read: ‘Staying involved and active’ and ‘communicating’ Both offering really practical tips and extremely well written.

As I have always known writing can be very therapeutic as I found when running writers groups and having one-to-one time with clients.

 

Finding time

I am surrounded by dynamic friends who squeeze so much into their lives and still find time to help their community,be supportive of their own inner circle of friends and family. Maybe mostly as I choose to play with positive people.

Seriously though, as my own mentor and life coach (Mother) always used to say; one always finds time to do the things one wants to and what really matters.

However, I also know many people who are not happy with their life and the lack of challenges or opportunities that come their way…but are for whatever reason unable to make the effort to do something about it.

To make changes in our life we have to do just that – maybe a small step at a time. I find taking up a new hobby or studying/adding to the CV helps tremendously with the latter opening up personal and job opportunities and increasing self-worth.

There are many great organisations that offer distance learning and online courses which can fit around your work and family commitments. i.e. BSY Group and Oplex Careers.

Remember we are never too old to learn new skills.

National Grief Awareness Day

Today has been noted as National Grief Awareness Day and my regular followers know that the main theme of my blog is to encourage people to be more bereavement aware and help those who are struggling.

We still have such a long way to go to accept that everyone grieves in a different way and there is no time limit on the grieving process.

As I say so often there are no great words of wisdom to make somebody feel better and remove their sorrow but we can help ease their pain just a little by acknowledging their loss rather than ignoring it… just because we feel uncomfortable and do not know what to say.

The intensity of one’s grief is often determined by the closeness of the relationship we have with our loved one. My advice is to take one day at a time and not to be too hard on yourself. Try to resume activities that you enjoy as your loved one would want you to go on living life to the full..of that I am certain.

To all those out there who have lost somebody they love, try and celebrate their life as best you can, and, as I say so often, death does not end a relationship.

Please value our nurses

I have always felt our brilliant nurses are greatly under-valued. I know enhanced recovery is now the route hospitals push for patients, and, it is said that the ratio of recovery is only 20% surgeon and 80% down to the patient’s own attitude to sensible rehab.

However, either side of any operation stand our fantastic nurses who work long shifts day in day out and focus on the well-being both emotionally and physically of the patients in their care.

Sadly, despite how much most patients appreciate the great nursing they receive daily nurses are faced with internal politics that too often prevent them from doing the job they are trained for and, at times, upsetting the patients within that care.

The last week I have experienced first-hand some of the ridiculous situations that both nurses and  patients have to endure by decision makers who do not know the full picture or in any way witness the stress and anxiety their decisions make to those on the front line and patients themselves.

There isn’t a one size fits all when dealing with operation recovery and forcing dedicated nurses to deliver inappropriate recommendations is just complete madness. I will be ensuring my observations will be reported as I know only too well when people get home from hospital they get on with their lives, and rightly so try to forget any negative experience. This may be the best policy for them, but alas it certainly isn’t for the long term success of our beloved NHS.

The only way we can effect change is to register complaints and support the staff that are not in a position to do so. It is also helpful to write and congratulate and give credit where it is due, as far too often misplaced blame/complaints made can damage a nurse’s career, so personal appreciation may just adjust the balance.

For obvious reasons I am not revealing specifics but suffice to say I thank the nurses that go that extra mile and give comfort and excellent nursing when it’s needed and put the idiots further up the chain of authority to shame.

 

 

 

Redbourn Auto Solutions

Once again I am happily  recommending Redbourn Auto Solutions for car repairs. Our little car was ‘unhappy and sick’  yesterday but after a visit to the caring team and head car-doctor I am delighted to confirm all is well again. I cannot thank the team enough for swift and considerate service.

All joking aside, it is great to have peace of mind and know that only the work that is necessary is recommended and at competitive prices.

I know nothing about the workings of said car yet one is never made to feel daft or inadequate… as I know other garages often delight in making us girlies feel stupid as well as vulnerable to over charging.

Congratulations again to the best local car solutions and as their advert says they really do give:

‘friendly efficient service from people you can trust’

http://www.redbournautosolutions.com

Easily distracted

OK girls we mock the men for only being able to do one thing at a time whilst we multi task…by the way which we do admirably.

Yesterday however I allowed myself to be easily distracted…in my defense we had seen a bit of smoke and smelt rubber burning from our wee car. So we pulled into an open air car park and decided to let things cool/calm down.

I have parked before in this particular car park in the evening when it is free. My daughter told me it was free Sundays too. So off we toddle to do a few hours shopping, have a cream tea (of course) but returning to our car there lay await a parking ticket!

So today’s tip is always be mindful check and re-check parking restrictions before leaving the car park..even if the car appears to be on fire! Seriously, many of our local car parks previously free have started to charge.

Safe, happy driving and watch out for the lovely traffic wardens!

Exam success

Congratulations to all those students who received their exam results yesterday. For those that may have not quite achieved what they had hoped and, in many cases, needed for their first choice university I send a spiritual hug with the following advice:-

As upsetting and disappointing it may seem to lose that first choice, and the anxiety for yourself and parents going through clearing –  a second choice can often turn out far better in the longer term.

Whilst everyone is pushed to get those A*s as a life coach reminded me that once one receives their Degree, the fact you have passed your previous exams is often what is observed not the particularly grade!

What you may find is the university/course you may succeed in securing via clearing is in many cases as good as a similar if not the same course at your original first choice.

In life things happen for a reason and what may seem the end of the world is not but a different opportunity. Stay focused you may still achieve your dream career via a slightly different route.

I wish you all luck with moving into university and starting the next exciting chapter wherever that may lead you.